Let’s be real. We have merely two hands. It may seem at times like we have 6, but I assure you it’s only two. When one hand is holding baby Skye and the other hand is frantically reaching for my active 4-year-old Zoë; who loves mischief, picking apples looks a bit out of reach (Ha, you see what I did there? Out of reach). I’m grateful for all and any help I get with the kids. Handing baby Skye over to a family member to hold a bit can be a nice break. However, this doesn’t always go over well with her. Zoë already blames me for having another baby, so she’s not willing to relinquish her spot by my side. The solution? Strap baby Skye to my body comfortably in the best baby harness available, Ergobaby’s Omni 360 carrier (c/o Ergobaby). It’s a life saver! I promise. They have parents sanity in mind. I can wear her facing me, facing away from me, on my back, on my hip. There’s no infant insert needed. It’s all built-in to adapt to Skye as she grows (from week 1 to 36 months!). It even has a pocket for my cell phone, wallet and keys! How’s that for being a helping hand?
Attention divided is a lot to get used to, especially when you’re only 4 years old. New baby comes along and takes mom and dads attention away – yea, that’s heart wrenching! I get it. What to do? Empathy, understanding, loads of patience, books like Pocket Full of Kisses, one on one time with just me or me and Michael are really helpful. I am completely new at this and welcome advice by the way. Sometimes it all comes together and works so well. Other times I wonder if she’ll ever forgive me for having another daughter. It’s heartbreaking. It’s also really frustrating. There were times at the beautiful County Line Orchard, where I was ready to make their apple cider a bit more parent friendly (lol). Yes, it all can make a momma feel a little unhinged at times, and so guilty. Nonetheless I’m holding on. I’m going the extra mile and we’re going to get through this adjustment together.
This is all part of being a mom. I’m here to love, understand and keep the peace – with open arms.